Pondering over the fact that why you are still single? If ‘Yes’, then fret not, you are in safe hands. We bring you a guide on how to get a girlfriend today!
This article will not just help you get a girlfriend, but find an amazing one too. You might be doing a few things wrong, that prevent you from having one now. It only takes a simple decision from you to find that elusive girlfriend and change your life for the better.
There is no clear cut path to getting a girlfriend, and every girl is a different person. But following the guidelines mentioned in this article will improve your chances multifold.
Without wasting much time, let’s jump straight to the steps that’ll teach you how to find a girlfriend right away.
HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND
1. MEETING THE RIGHT GIRL
Trying to look cool and showing zero respect for the rules to be followed is a big ‘NO’ when you are looking for a girl to fall in love with you.
Just be loose. Don’t set up your mind to look for a girlfriend every time you go out, or you’ll just end up looking desperate. Self-confidence and self-sufficiency are incredibly sexy qualities in a person, so be comfortable in being who you are and not having a girlfriend.
Pick Your Target: If you find an attractive girl, just walk up to her and start a conversation (If not, then just walk off).
But before going out and approaching a girl, try and understand the environment. See where you are, be it a library, a college or someone’s wedding, talk according to that particular environment.
Meet her in person: Unless you plan to date online, you have to meet the girl in person.
Meet up someplace where there is something that both of you enjoy. If you are both movie freaks, go to a theatre and watch a movie together.
Try to pick her up and go to the place together. This means you get to spend more time together and also have a conversation during transit.
Keep Talking Regularly With Lots Of Girls: Don’t be afraid of rejection. Just try talking to plenty of girls that you encounter and you will keep getting better at communicating with girls.
This will boost your confidence, and before you know it, girls will be talking to you without any effort from your side.
Set a target for the minimum number of girls you will talk to every day and continue doing this for a few weeks.
Be Social with Everybody: Try to be social with everybody, regardless of age, gender or interests.
Talk to girls you like in the same way you talk to any other person. You don’t have to try extra hard to hit on a girl in every sentence you speak. You might just come off as being creepy.
Girls will notice how you speak with them, and everyone else, and the more social you are, the more is the chance for the girl to notice you or approach you and talk with you.
Stay Realistic: Try not to brag about the cars you own or the high-end phone you use, just keep it simple.
Be Honest: When you first meet a girl, try and tell honestly about your likes and dislikes. And the most important one is that if you can joke, she can as well, and if you do not like the joke she tells, then it is better not to laugh at it.
She might not like it, but what if she likes your honest opinion on the joke?
2. FINDING YOUR GIRLFRIEND(S)
I put the ‘s’ in the bracket intentionally! It is up to you how many girls you would want to approach until you find the perfect love.
I have listed the complete series of steps you need to follow below. Try them out, and if you find it necessary, you are free to tweak some steps according to what works best for you.
Start a conversation: Find a girl alone; just go ahead and talk to her. Do not stop; keep engaging regularly. Don’t mind about the topic and the place you are in.
The more you talk, the more you learn about girls and how to speak to them.
Practice genuinely complimenting girls: Now, this might be a little old fashioned, but guess what? It still works.
Find something attractive about the girl and try complimenting her for it. Genuine appreciation for being who they are, and expressing it to them is a sure shot way to get any girl to like you.
Make her laugh: Girls like guys who have a good sense of humor.
A joke in your mind? Say it! Yes, jokes. Do not hesitate to say it just go ahead with it. If you have a great sense of humor and are sarcastic enough to pull it off, then just say it. You do not know when you are at your best, and the girl might just burst into laughter.
Start flirting: If you have tried all of your jokes and some seem to work, then go ahead and start flirting.
Be flirty and stay out of the friend zone area. Funny pick up lines work wonders. This makes your intention known that you are looking for a partner and not just a friend.
Start taking actions to take small steps on how to approach her with some gestures and touch which she might be comfortable with.
If all this works, then you are ready to go to the next step.
3. FINDING THE SPECIAL ONE
Found the right one? Now take a step ahead, get her number and start engaging in conversations every day and take her out.
Do not be greedy or desperate to get the girl’s attention by following her up through message or calls. If she says ‘No’ then it is a ‘No’, move on from that girl.
4. BE KIND TO HER
If there’s a thing you do not like about her, try not to comment on it. If you are sarcastic and she doesn’t understand your sarcasm, explain it to her.
Do not body shame or pass a racist comment. Make her feel at home and get her to be comfortable around you when spending time together.
Don’t be a fake and do nice things only when she is around. Chances are, she will notice how you treat her and how you treat others.
Also Read, The Dos and Dont’s of a new relationship
5. ASK HER OUT
If everything sounds good and she is really interested in you, then it’s time to take her out.
Go on a date: Follow her up and ask her out for a date. All you have to do is pick her up, be it in a cab or your own vehicle (try if borrowing works out). Pay the bill and show the girl that you are not struggling for the moment.
Even if she offers to, do not allow her to pay. She might just be modest and not used to you.
Do not let go: If you feel she’s a nice girl and might be the one you were looking for, then follow up on her. You have to wait for some time, maybe a day or two and just ask her opinions about you.
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Here are some of its features:
- Hot or Not: sounds similar to Tinder, right? This is a location-based feature which lets users know if any singles nearby.
- Chatrooms: Meet new girls by joining groups and start engaging in a friendly conversation.
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Forget about looking for a girl. It’s better to spend some good time with anyone who shares the same thoughts and interests as you. It is a success even if you get some new acquaintances who could later be a connection to your dream girl.
If you are still wondering why can’t I get a girlfriend, get your priorities straight. It is a process, and you need to work on it continuously to get results.
You need to put yourself first and keep working on yourself. Ultimately, this will make you a more attractive partner. Girls are attracted to people who know who they are and what they want.
Once you are sure that you have found the one you were looking for, try asking her to be your girlfriend in a rather creative way.
- Is it okay if I am going against my family and date that person they hate?
Caution, as there might be a conflict arising which will make you feel like you can’t be honest or even come near to the people you love. Search for the reasons why your family doesn’t like your partner or why your partner doesn’t like them.
Take their opinions, but the result is on you.
- Why is she not saying “I love you” back?
Chances are she is not into you. She might not feel the same as you do. Maybe your relationship isn’t there yet. Or she just doesn’t want to brag about being in love and would not want to say it again and again.
- What should I do if I am scared to talk to girls?
Having anxiety before approaching is quite normal for everybody. Try to be social and talk with a lot of different people.
Try to do warm-ups by talking to other girls before you approach the girl you really want to talk to. Doing these two simple steps prepares you to shed your inhibitions and have a fruitful conversation with any girl.
- How do I confess to a girl? Should I do it in a public place or privately?
Just smile, be friendly, and let her know you are interested in her and you’d like to go on a date. Don’t say directly ‘I want a girlfriend’, or she might get the impression that you are desperate.
Overthinking it will make you more nervous. Pick a public place if the girl doesn’t know you well, but ask her in a private conversation.